How We Love

with Milan and Kay Yerkovich

Session 1: The Five Love Styles

Discover the five love styles and how they affect the ways you connect with your spouse.

Session 2: The Comfort circle

Explore what happens when two love styles are brought together by marriage.


How We Love is a Two-Week Study for Married Groups. 

Your early experiences shaped your current behavior, beliefs, and expectations in all of your relationships . . . especially in your marriage. Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich have identified five different “intimacy imprints,” also called love styles, that can combine to trap married couples in repetitive patterns of conflict.

To use How We Love in your group, watch the session video and use the Discussion Guide for that session to have a conversation about the video.

Additional Resources

  • How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
    This two-session group experience only scratches the surface what the Yerkovich’s have to say about Love Styles and how they affect the quality of marriage. If you want more information, check out their book. It includes a workbook to help you apply what you learn as a couple.
  • The Love Style Quiz
    This short quiz will help you and your group members identify your own love style so you can work toward becoming a Secure Connector.
  • Resources Page
    The Yerkovich’s web site,, has some great free resources to help you dig deeper into the concepts you were introduced to during this two-session group experience, as well as to begin to apply them in your own life and marriage.

About Milan and Kay

In their book, How We Love: Discover Your Style, Enhance Your Marriage, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how your early life experiences created an "intimacy imprint" that shapes your marriage.