This past week in his series Ask It, Andy Stanley gave advice that sounds so simple yet can be so difficult: when making decisions, get other people's opinions. Just ask someone else who's wiser what they think about your situation. We all have our I-should-have-seen-it-coming stories, and most of those stories could have ended differently had we just asked a wise person what we should do.
Years ago, Andy said this in one of his messages from the series Discovering God's Will: "The primary way God speaks to me about professional things and personal things is through other people." He goes on to suggest ways we can best leverage someone else's wisdom to make the best decisions possible.
- Ask someone outside the situation.
- Choose someone who has nothing to lose by telling you the truth.
- Choose someone who is where you want to be in life. Chances are, the bad advice you’ve gotten in the past was from people who were no closer to where you wanted to be in life than you were.
- Ask more than one person.
- Choose someone you know and someone you don’t know.
- Ask direct questions:
* Are any of the options I’m considering outside the bounds God’s moral will as described in Scripture? * What is the wise thing for me to do? * What would you do if you were me?
Do you have other helpful questions to ask when seeking wise counsel?