9 Things Not to Say In Group


We all want to lead our groups successfully, right? We all want to be in on what God is doing to change and grow others. But we worry sometimes about blowing it. Or maybe we're tempted to be too confident in our skills and training as leaders.

In the provocatively titled "9 Statements That Will Destroy Your Group," Ben Reed runs through a list of things you shouldn't say to your group or to yourself about your leadership.

Ben is a small groups pastor at Long Hollow Baptist Church. Here's an excerpt from his article:

There’s a certain amount of your group’s success that you can’t control. God’s going to choose to bless or not. He’s going to sovereignly inspire group members to engage…or not. His hand of favor will be there…or not.

But there are statements you can make, personally, that will inevitably tank your group. That will guarantee you’ll get nothing out of it, and that you’ll create a terrible experience for the rest of your group. Statements that will destroy community rather than foster it.

Read the whole thing.

I wish I could claim innocence, but during certain phases of my leadership I've definitely said (or at least thought) 1, 2, 3, 4, and probably 9. What about you?