If you just started a new group, Connect + Grow—the 4-week curriculum for new groups—will help you lead your group through a discussion of what we call The Three Vital Relationships:
- Intimacy with God
- Community with Insiders
- Influence with Outsiders.
We believe that to grow spiritually a person must focus on his or her relationships with God, other believers, and non-believers. And that's especially true of you as your group's leader. If your goal is to help your group members build life-changing community with one another, you need to be pursuing the Three Vitals yourself. And that begins with pursing an intimate relationship with God.
Intimacy with God is the foundation for the other two relationships. As you lead, make sure you stay connected with your heavenly Father. Don't let the busyness that comes with leadership push him to the periphery.
Read your Bible on a regular basis and pray for your leadership and for your group. When you pray, invite God into your group. Ask him to do what you cannot: grow you and the others in your group. Remember that you're responsible for leading the group, but you can't create community or produce spiritual growth. He's responsible for outcomes.
If you want to dig more deeply into this topic, check out the leader training called Stay Connected. You'll watch a short video about the importance of pursuing your own spiritual growth as you lead others to do the same. The page also offers some practical next steps.